Just because someone carries it well, doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy
I saw this quote the other day, it hit me, exposed me & I think resonated with a lot of others because I got about 20 messages about it.
We are all carrying something that is HEAVY. Some heavier than others- but does that really matter? Life is super hard. Approaching 35 years old, it definitely doesn’t get easier but I will tell you I am coming back to a blog post I wrote a few months ago about GRACE & why these two go hand and hand.
We need more grace people. We judge, a lot in this world. It comes naturally to us unfortunately. We have got to be kinder to one another because we are ALL carrying a load that is heavy and as much as I venture to pledge to have God carry everything for me, it is still hard.
I have been guilty of not liking a person and steering clear of them, later to find something heavy about them and then I come back to grace. That person is carrying a load that I could not imagine, and here I am thinking they are just someone I don’t want to associate with. We have to get better. We have to have God’s heart. We cannot just pick and choose who we decide to be nice to and care for.
Life right now is like trying to hold a bar of soap. As soon as you feel like you have a grasp on it, it slips right out of your fingertips.
Will I ever feel like myself after 3 kids? Maybe not. Maybe I will just be a different version of myself. I didn’t just have twins this year- it has been a traumatic year with life changing events. Laced with the hard moments has also been the biggest blessings. That can be hard to navigate & digest at times. So I need to let God have it all and wait for this period to transition. Until then, I always carry it pretty well.
But how my friends, can I carry it less well? I know that sounds like a funny question but it’s an honest one. I truly do not know how. Can you relate?
I naturally make the best of things, am optimistic, have gratitude, and smile, I am the fixer, the one that wants everyone to get along & carries that–but that does not in any way mean I’m not struggling…
And please know that I AM grateful. And I acknowledge wholeheartedly that there are a lot of people out there that have it a LOT harder than I do. I wouldn’t trade MY HARD for anything in the world — my lot is my lot.
I know loads are all relative and what’s heavy for me might be light for someone else, and vice-versa.
Do any of you ever feel like this? Is your load too heavy sometimes?
As I wait for God to help digest this season & assist me with my load– I know I am not wasting time in being a better version of myself and waiting for the progress.
Please listen my friend, in the waiting, you are not wasting time, but doing the hard work of finding the new beautiful rhythms in a quieter, slower version of life. As the world moves FAST around you in full speed, please remember to be STILL.
You are WHOLE- even in all of the time you spent to try to be better, try to empty your load, questioning your feelings, doubting your worth, wondering what you have missed, why NOTHING makes sense, even then your soul is at peace in HIM. When you are still, you are still growing and learning at a graceful pace.
Even though you still wake up some days facing some major change, major hardships– within your family, within yourself, within your relationships, moments that are no longer shared, rooms that will never feel the same- you are NOT missing out on what was meant for you.
He is preparing you for what is MEANT TO BE. He is shaping you through this journey.
My friends – let’s show grace – to everyone. Even the people who carry it well, you can pretty much guarantee they are carrying a heavy load. We all are.
Make today a good step in the direction to soak yourself in grace, rest, resilience, prayer and intention. I am working on it, and so can you! Let’s love and spread grace around like confetti.