You give life to what you give energy to.

I am a firm believer that you give life to what you give energy to.

If you give effort and energy towards negative talk, gossip, negative people, or negative thoughts, you are going to give those life and a nice big welcome to take over your life.

In these crazy times that we are all going through, lets give energy to the good stuff. Let’s welcome in the good. I wanted to share some of the things that I am really trying to live by in hopes that you may feel the same and it can help drive your positive.

One thing I am focusing on right now is giving energy to positive relationships.

Sitting here in my MID 30’s ahhhh yes MID. I have realized that the highest honor of friendship looks a bit differently these days. I am not looking for my friendships being defined by getting invited to “that party” or out on a girls weekend. It’s not clinking champagne glasses at fancy brunches even though I love a good champs. That is all great, fun and special, but it’s not what it’s about, and it does not DEFINE the friendship — not at all. So let’s turn away from that right now. What should the focus be on? What should you give life to?

The real honor of friendship is being invited into someone’s REAL. Being real is why I wanted to start my blog in the first place. It is what motivated me to be raw in my life in order to connect with others. There is something about being invited into someone’s “real” that makes everything more authentic, makes relationships more genuine and brings in a bit of honesty that we all need.

It’s getting an invitation into the nitty gritty, the not-so-pretty, the down right ugly, the hard stuff, the vulnerable stuff, the weird stuff, the unpolished stuff, the hidden stuff. It’s being welcomed into a home where the sink is full of dishes and the laundry is covering the couch. It’s entering the places of heartache and extreme pain. It’s sitting in old sweats on the floor and laughing till you cry. It’s carrying around secrets that you’ve been trusted to keep. It’s listening and hearing. It’s holding a huge sacred space for each other. It’s answering phone calls just to talk something through.

The highest honor of friendship isn’t found in beautifully planned events or brightly filtered photos. Do not get wrapped up in this.

The highest honor of friendship is the messy, dirty, and real. It’s in unfiltered photos of laughing so hard your double chin is showing. It’s loving each other’s babies and holding each other while you ugly cry.

This is my focus. This is where I am in life.

If you’ve been invited into even just ONE person’s real, you are blessed.

This is what life is about.

It is to be cherished

So lets remember you give life to what you give energy to.


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